Tuesday, April 30, 2013

~Titus 2 Tuesday~


I have been thinking of Mother's Day a lot lately. Probably because this year is going to be very different. Not only am I not going to be able to spend it with my Momma, since (she passed away last year). But, I'm also not going to be with two of my own daughters. Kelli lives 1,700 miles away and Kristina will still be away on her honeymoon.

Mother’s Day means more to me than my own birthday because it is a day to celebrate the fact that I am blessed with children. I am so honored that the Lord chose to bless me with three beautiful daughters.

Mother's Day is a wonderful opportunity we have to truly bless our mothers. This biblical mandate applies to children of all ages. I realized that my daughters learned how to honor me by how I honored my mom.

We can honor our moms in many ways and while purchasing a gift is not required, it is a sweet thing to do. I always prefer homemade gifts or gifts that have special meaning. Our girls have always made this day very special for me.

I pray that each of you Mom's have a very blessed Mother's Day!

Monday, April 29, 2013

Leaving & Cleaving

“For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh”? ~Matthew 19:5~
 
 
Today after after church, Wade came over with a trailer to load up most of Kristina's belongings along with their shower & wedding gifts they've received so far. It is such a bitter sweet time in our lives. But, we are so thankful that each of our girls are blessed with husbands who love and fear the Lord.


Wade & Kristina


Chet & Kelli

Leighton & Kaitlyn

 
 

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If you haven't read Kelly's blog, over at Generation Cedar, you need to go visit. She writes amazing stuff like this...http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2013/01/what-i-would-like-to-say-when-people-make-me-feel-like-a-freak-for-having-children.html. I agree with everything she has ever written. This particular post is very dear to my heart. A big family is such a B*L*E*S*S*I*N*G!


Sunday, April 28, 2013

Why I’m Comfortable with my Kids being “Un-socialized”

I read this article written by Kasey over at http://walkingredeemed.org/ It is so nice to come across another Mom who feels the same as I do. I hope her post is as encouraging to you as it was to me.

As a homeschooler, I hear it all the time.  The sometimes well-intentioned (other times mean-spirited) questions regarding how I ensure my children are properly socialized. Here’s my straight answer…I don’t.

I’m okay if they receive a sub-standard education in the ways of modern-day youth.  I don’t mind admitting that I’m actively “sheltering” my kids from associations that will do nothing but harm their own characters.  And I won’t apologize for it.  I’m not a snob–I’m simply a mother who takes the task of raising her children very seriously and who knows how easy it is to step off the path into complacency.

§  I don’t mind if my kids don’t learn to cuss.  My oldest child dipped his toe in the nasty habit a few years back and it took some serious praying and intentional heart-to-hearts to penetrate his impressionable heart on the matter.  I’m perfectly content to count his battle a victory and give all glory to God.  But I’m not eager to wage war against a filthy mouth again anytime soon.

§  I’m not concerned if my kids don’t have girlfriends/boyfriends.  In fact, they are not permitted to.  And yes, we’ve been raked over the coals for it.  Encouraging any form of intimacy between youth, even of a strictly emotional nature, is playing with fire.  In well-supervised social situations, my children are more than welcome to chat with and get to know people of either gender.  But that is where it stops, for now.

§  I’m not at all bothered that my children are a bit naive.  That they can hear crass talk and not fully understand it’s meaning.  It doesn’t make them stupid, it simply means they’re having their minds guarded from the garbage being heaped on young people today.  The dumbing-down created by Hollywood and the tabloids is mass-producing a society numb to basic moral standards.  I’m fine if my children aren’t just another statistic.

§  I make no apologies for the fact that I have children who are well into their teens and are still not permitted to watch movies deemed suitable for those years younger.  What goes in those minds via the screen tends to stay locked up there.  I prefer to have them held captive by that which will elevate, rather than destroy, their characters.

§  I do not feel bad for not allowing my children to run around unsupervised.  Even my teens operate within boundaries set in place for their own good.  They are given freedoms, in a progressive trend, as they age and show signs of maturity.  But they are not left to their own devices.

§  I’m not in the least persuaded that it is acceptable for my kids to be “checking out” those of the opposite sex.  I am doggedly instilling in them the need to respect each other and to look deeper than what is often put far too prominently on display.  I abhor this society of acceptable nakedness and am encouraging my children to keep their eyes on Christ instead.

Make no mistake, my children have friends.  My son shoots hoops with the neighbor boy in his yard pretty regularly and I didn’t run a background check or insist on fingerprinting before allowing the friendship.  But I can glance over there quickly and see that they aren’t toeing any lines…they’re simply enjoying a bit of company and athletic recreation.  I am not opposed to friendships–it’s the myth that I must intentionally socialize my kids that frustrates me.  You socialize puppies.  Children should be encouraged to live, encountering people of all kinds and learning to make judgment calls (not the same thing as being judgmental!) while under your protective wing.

I am not advocating homeschooling or bashing those who choose not to.  I have done both and neither option is the cause or the absolute cure.  I am, however, taking a firm stand against the notion that kids must be immersed deeply in peer exchange to grow in accordance with societal standards.  I am not interested in having my children attain any such “standard”.

There is a deception that is running rampant, through even Christian homes, that claims we must go with the flow.  That we must not put up too much resistance or our children will rebel.   That the easy marriage of the “world” and the “church” is necessary to live a life of cohesiveness, peace and success.

I’m raising my sign high and standing at the picket line, ready to march against this madness. Please forgive me if that offends you!




Saturday, April 27, 2013

Helping Hands

Today Michael & I went to Kristina and Wade's future home. We helped them paint their master bathroom and bedroom. They chose a dove gray for their walls. It turned out really beautiful. At the request of the couple, no pictures will be posted. I'm sure you understand :o)

Leighton and Kaitlyn came home from an auction while we were there so we got to visit with them a bit. It's so nice that the girls will be living next door to one another. It really makes it convenient for visiting :)

Tomorrow after church we will be celebrating Leighton & Wade's little sister, Mallory's birthday. She turned 11 today.

Next week is going to be a whirl wind of activity. Out of state family & friend will be arriving. Meetings, decorating, rehersal dinner, and then of course the WEDDING! What a bittersweet time for Michael & I. Only seven more days and our baby girl will be a married woman!

Friday, April 26, 2013

~Problems~

I have a great little devotional called *Jesus Calling* by Sarah Young. I read it every monring after I read my Bible. Today's message was really good and very fitting. When problems arise, how do you handle them? Do you worry and get upset, or do you pray and run to God? I've done both and believe me, I got a lot more peace from doing the ladder! I pray this devotion is an encouragement to you.

 
Therefore we do not lose heart. Even though our outward man is perishing, yet the inward man is being renewed day by day. For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, is working for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory, while we do not look at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen. For the things which are seen are temporary, but the things which are not seen are eternal. ~2 Corinthians 4:16-18 NKJV
Blessed are the people who know the joyful sound!
They walk, O Lord, in the light of Your countenance. ~Psalm 89:15 NKJV

Thursday, April 25, 2013

~ Thankful Thursday ~

 
Today I am thankful for all the beautiful things God has created for us to enjoy. There is beauty all around us. Even in the smallest things. We just need to take the time to notice!

4 Things You Really Need to Know about Your Gifts


4 Things You Really Need to Know about Your Gifts
Pricilla Shrier

Two years! That’s how long Gideon’s heroic story kept me spell-bound. I would have never guessed it could.

I mean, it is only Gideon after all.

His story has been told in more Sunday school classes and expanded into more lights-camera-action, Hollywood underdog movies than most every other story in the Bible.

So, when I began, I didn’t expect to uncover much more than what I’d already read, heard or seen before. Certainly didn’t think I’d write a book on him or the lessons I’d learned while peering into his life.

But then I began.

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One verse led to another. One chapter to the next. One day parlayed into a month.

And one month ballooned into a couple years before I could blink. Once I started digging in – deeply – down below the surface of the written words, down to the places where only the Holy Spirit has the mining rights to dig, I found much more than I went in looking for.

More than the well-known fleece incident.

More than the victory claimed by a small, unassuming army.

More than a timid farmer having a transformative encounter with a heavenly visitor.

There was more…much more.

And one of those uncovered treasures is . . . Gideon’s Gifts. 

Then Gideon . . .prepared a young goat and unleavened bread from an ephah of flour;

he put the meat in a basket and the broth in a pot and brought them out to [the angel of the Lord] under the oak, and presented them.

Judges 6:19

Whether out of mere hospitality or holy reverence, Gideon asked his guest to receive this luscious spread of traditional Hebrew food.

His guest.

The Angel of the Lord.

The Malak Yahweh.

The pre-incarnate Christ.

God.

God. Responded.

I will remain until you return.

Judges 6:17–18

God. Waited.

A stunning picture of Yahweh’s kindness toward humanity. A dramatic painting of His passionate intent to partner with frailty. A brightly illumined spotlight on His willingness to oblige mortality and accommodate fragility.

The Malak Yahweh wasn’t upset – put off by the inconvenience of the delay. He agreed to it – chose to cool his heels while Gideon prepared the gifts he wanted to present under the oak tree in Ophrah. For some reason known only in the divinely, comprehensive mind of God, He wanted to receive the gifts . . . of a mere human being.

He cared about Gideon’s gifts.

Just like He cares about yours; your time, your talent and your passions. Your gifts.

Whatever you have to give, He wants to receive it  . . . .if you’re willing to prepare it.

That’s exactly where the lessons found in Gideon’s gifts begin.

There was nothing fast about this food. No deli on the corner. No Whole Foods Market nearby or Chinese take-out across the dirt road.

Gideon’s meal was “homemade” in the purest sense of the word. He killed the young goat himself, kneaded the unleavened dough for the bread, and whipped up the broth, all from scratch. And it was an extravagantly sacrificial meal given Israel’s current state of deprivation. It required time, effort, and energy to prepare His gift.

Many Christians don’t want to start here. They balk at doing the hard work involved in the preparation process. But God won’t use what we have not taken the time to diligently prepare. 

Divine gift giving doesn’t stop there.

What good would Gideon’s meal have been if he’d not been willing to return to the oak tree – to bring out the meal he spent those long hours preparing and give it to the angel.

Prepared gifts cannot serve their purpose unless they are presented gifts. Gifts kept in hiding are largely useless and untapped.

Sadly, fear and insecurity often keep unsure individuals who have done their due diligence from bringing them to the forefront of service. So, they’re left holding good gifts that are not being used for God’s purposes.

Prepared gifts.

Presented gifts.

But wait, there’s more.

Then the angel of the God said to him, “Take the meat and the unleavened bread and lay them on this rock, and pour out the broth.”

Judges 6:20

Gideon: Ummmm. Excuse me, sir. I’ve just slaved over this exquisite meal for hours. You want me to do WHAT with it?

Yes, the angel told Gideon to release the very thing he’d so painstakingly prepared. To put it down and pour it out. Two actions that no chef – or hard working mother I know – would ever agree to.

I’m a gift giver. Enjoy it more than anything else. Seeing eyes light up and smiles erupt makes me happy.

And, when I give someone a gift, I have a definite idea of how I hope they’ll use it. In my mind, I see them enjoying the new appliance in their kitchen, or wearing that nice peach blouse they unwrapped with the gray slacks I already knew was in their closet. But, at the very least, I certainly don’t want them re-gifting it!

I think Gideon probably had a certain expectation too, after going through all that trouble to prepare such a fine meal for his heavenly visitor. But the angel didn’t lick his lips and dive into the meal as Gideon might have suspected. Instead he chose another, very strange way of accepting the gift. He told Gideon to release everything he had just prepared – to put it down and pour it out. 

Releasing our gifts back to the Lord for Him to do with as He pleases is difficult and humbling—especially since we often harbor expectations of what He’ll do with them.

But Gideon’s story teaches us an important lesson: the best use of our gifts is never what we imagined. For when Gideon put down his gifts, they were met with a stunning divine display.

In one brilliant flash of miraculous light,

“the angel of the Lord put out the end of the staff that was in his hand and touched the meal and … fire sprang up from the rock and consumed the meat and the unleavened bread”

Judges 6:21

And with that, an average rock became an altar and Gideon’s gifts became a sacrifice, offering an aroma of worship sweeter to God than any baked bread or lamb chop ever could.

This is what I want.

And, I suspect it’s what you want too.

There is nothing commonplace or meager about the gifts you have to give. No limit to what God can do with them to edify His body and bring glory to His own name. God can and will use them as long as you are faithful to . . .

Prepare them.

Present them.

Put them down.

Pour them out.

Wednesday, April 24, 2013

Where Has All The Mentoring Gone?

As you can see from my recent posts, this has been and is heavy on my heart. We have hundreds of thousands of young girls out there that have no idea how to be a modest young lady, how to cook, how to care for children, how to run a home. We *older* women need to take Titus 2:3-5 seriously. You don't have to be *OLD* to mentor. Young ladies who are mature in their faith can certainly encourage girls younger than themselves. You don't have to be married, or have children to know what God's Word says about those subjects. I pray this article speaks to your hearts and you let God use you in the way He chooses.

Where Has All The Mentoring Gone?
Julia Bettencourt

The subject of mentoring is one of those things we hear so much about revolving around church leadership lately. The Christian bookstores are full of new mentoring books. I'm actually not too keen on the word, "mentoring". I think it conjures up a roadblock in some people like it's something new or not meant for them.

If you ask someone to mentor another, they may refuse, but if you ask them if they would take that person under their wing, take an interest in them, teach, and help them, there could be a different response. Mentoring is not a new concept. "Mentoring" is just a label that man has put on a biblical principle that was set down long ago. It is a concept that we as Christian women are instructed to lead our lives by. The actual word "mentor" means "tutor" or to give instruction or guidance to another. The passages in Titus 2 and 3 give us some real insight into this concept as it relates to Christian women.


The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as
becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine,
teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women
to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be
discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own
husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.   Titus 2:3-5


Older women are to teach the younger. That includes all of us, because there is always going to be someone younger than we are. Sure, some of us are better at certain things and have different qualities, skills, and knowledge. It's just like any other thing in the body of Christ. As Christians, we all have a place and a role to fill.

Aren't you glad God gives us simple commands that we don't have to go out and read a book or take a course on to be able to do the task? Mentoring other women involves the knowledge and skills that we have already obtained, are working to obtain, and have right at our fingertips, along with living a holy life.

It says in Titus 2:4,5
Teach the Young Women…

     To be sober
     To love their husbands
     To love their children
     To be discreet
     To be chaste
     To be keepers at home
     To be good
     To be obedient to their own husbands


When you go through the various things that are mentioned above that are involved in teaching other women, notice nothing is overlooked. All areas of our lives as women are covered in Titus 2:4,5. Our thought processes, relationships, finances, and all aspects of home life, plus many other topics can be lined up under these verses. This is why Women's Ministry is so important. I used to think it was important mainly because of the fellowship among other Christian women, and that is important. However, when we read and reread these verses, the vision of a Women's Ministry in our local churches becomes so much more. These verses should open our vision to do the will of God in all of these areas and be involved in teaching other women.

So how do we do what Titus 2 exhorts us to do? It tells us in verse 12 that Christ already taught us how.


"Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts,
we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this
present world…"     Titus 2:12


Living holy lives is the best way to live and when we are living that way, mentoring just falls into place. It's then that our lives are at their best and we are able to teach others in a godly way. When we are Looking for that blessed hope, and the glorious appearing of the great God and our Saviour Jesus Christ… we will desire to be busy about His business and the things that He left for us to do such as the admonishment to teach other women as in Titus 2:4,5.

God doesn't give us any room for excuses when it comes to mentoring. He doesn't say, if we are good at something, we have to mentor, or if we have a special skill. The Bible doesn't even say when you get a certificate that you've been trained to mentor that then you can mentor. The Bible just says to do it and God expects us to do so. We are to be zealous of good works.


Who gave himself for us, that he might redeem us from
all iniquity, and purify unto himself a peculiar people,
zealous of good works. These things speak, and exhort,
and rebuke with all authority. Let no man despise thee.    Titus 2:14


We are left here as witnesses for Christ. When it comes to the things that we are left on this earth to do revolving around how we relate and teach other women it is an awesome responsibility.

The thought of mentoring doesn't stop there in chapter two of Titus, but if you'll notice, it continues on down into chapter three.

Verse one of chapter three says, Put them in mind to be subject to principalities and powers… The thought from the previous chapter continues on. Not only are we exhorted to teach others but we are given some practical ways in which to do it. There are so many things to glean on down into chapter three of Titus that can be a great help and understanding to mentoring. Just look at all the practical things to mentor with.
  • Teach them to obey the law.
    Subject to principalities and powers, to obey magistrates.   Titus 3:1
  • Teach them to be responsible in serving.
    To be ready to every good work.   Titus 3:1
  • Teach them to watch their tongue concerning others.
    To speak evil of no man.   Titus 3:2
  • Teach them not to fight.
    To be no brawlers.   Titus 3:2
  • Teach them are art of gentleness and the how to be meek.
    Gentle, showing all meekness unto all men.   Titus 3:2

I'm not sure "where all the mentoring has gone". For it to be something that we hear about so much in the Christian world, I'm afraid I don't actually see it in action much. Maybe that has to do with our lifestyles these days. We live in such a busy and fast paced society that our outreach to others has suffered. We want to keep to ourselves more. We work hard and have so many things filling up our lives that we sometimes don't want to take on more responsibilities. But it all goes back to that love that Christ left us here to show. How can we do it if we don't get involved in the lives of others?

I think that mentoring starts within ones self first, because we have to take a look at our own lives, and really work on our relationship with Christ and improving our own lives in order to be able to teach others. I've seen lists of qualities of what makes a good mentor and all kinds of articles on how to be a mentor, but I think that Titus 2:3 and 2:12 is the whole crux of the matter. Our lives have to be in order first. It doesn't matter where we are from, what kind of personality we have, what type of education we have, because if we are a Christian, this is something we are commanded to do.

It all boils down to living holy lives in order to teach and have a godly impact on others. A daily relationship of prayer and bible reading, keeping your heart in tune with Christ, living as Christ intended us to do with love and compassion will go a long way to prepare us for this awesome task of "mentoring" others. It's just like anything else that God commands us to do; we have to be living for Christ and not the world in order to do it.

Tuesday, April 23, 2013

Titus 2 Tuesday ~ Apples of Gold (Part 2)




 
I want to tell you about a wonderful Bible study I was part of several years ago when I was a new Christian. It's called *Apples of Gold*
 
 


Apples of Gold is a six-week program. Each session includes one hour of cooking class, one hour of Bible study based on Titus 2:3-5, and a fellowship hour enjoying the food that was prepared in class. The six lessons are led by six different mentors. Though designed to nurture and pamper the younger women, the mentors receive a great blessing as well. Lasting friendships are made through the ministry of Apples of Gold.
"A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver."  Proverbs 25:11
Women are searching for community, camaraderie and companionship. They also want to grow and mature in their mothering skills as well as in their spiritual lives. Apples of Gold fills all of these needs. It’s not just a mentoring program; it’s not just a cooking class. It’s a nurturing, intergenerational connection that teaches women how to love their husbands; love their children; and practice submission, hospitality, kindness and purity.


As Scripture says:


Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.—Titus 2:3-5 ESV

Mentors are mature believers who reach out to younger women with love, compassion and wisdom from God's Word. They also share their life experiences, and give instruction in such vital skills as cooking and meal planning. This relationship builds a strong bond of love and appreciation between generations.

Younger women, whether single or married, are welcomed and cared for, appreciated and pampered. They are motivated to be better wives and mothers—whether now or in the future. As such, Apples of Gold plays a vital role in strengthening the family, encouraging women in their daily walk with Christ, and training them in the practical aspects of homemaking and hospitality.

You can order the book here
 
I highly recommend it. I have been thinking of starting a class in my own home. It is so important to teach young ladies the great blessing of keeping a home, loving your husband, and nurturing children.